Friday, November 29, 2019

Paternal Grandfather ~ Laurence Austin

Laurence Shepard Austin married Mary Kathryn Vance (don't know the date yet, but I'm still looking)

Laurence was born July 29, 1902 and died June 17, 1961.  He was 58 when he died of breast cancer.  He's buried at Mt. Moriah Baptist Cemetery in Smithfield, Pennsylvania.

Laurence and Mary (Pap-pap and Grandma Austin in my world) had three children:
James Robert Austin - Born November 11, 1925 (Married to Leora Mardell Kennison) * my parents
Pearl Louise Austin - Born July 14, 1927  (Married to Gilbert Hyland)
Omer Vance Austin - Born April 10, 1929 (Married to Dorla Firestone)

I don't remember much about my grandfather.  I know that he worked for the B&O Railroad when it carried passengers.  I've heard stories about how my grandmother and grandfather traveled from western Pennsylvania to Chicago (where I was born) by train for my first birthday, bringing ice cream snowballs, rolled in coconut and stored on dry ice for the trip.

I know they had a dairy bar/restaurant across the street and that he helped my grandmother there after he stopped working for the railroad.  (More about that in snippets about my grandmother)

I don't have any warm, fuzzy memories of Pap-pap.  Most of my memories were from the time in his life that he was incredibly sick with cancer.

My mother was a nurse and she agreed to take care of Pap-pap at home so that he could die at home.  I remember living there (and getting on his nerves).  Since he died in June, I'm guessing we went to live there when school was out.  I can't imagine how much pain he was in.

I got on his nerves, but my brother got on his nerves even more.  Jimmy was only 3 at the time. I think the noise and general confusion of the presence of a 3-year-old could be hard to tolerate for my grandfather at that time.  I was away from the house as much as possible.

I spent my days at the stables down the hill, behind the funeral home next door, that belonged to my great Uncle Jim.  I learned to curry and brush the horses, muck the stable, and best of all, I learned to ride.  The horses were 3-gaited show horses and my uncle had a large ring with a grass center, cut out of the grass - the size of a show ring, where we would ride.

When I went back to the house at dinner time, and my grandmother (or mother) would say, "Ew!  You smell like a horse!", I smiled all the way down to my toes.  I loved the smell of horses and the stable. It was my sanity that summer. 

In retrospect, I'm kind of amazed at my mother.  She didn't like my grandfather much (or at all) and yet she volunteered to take care of him 24/7 so he could die at home - AND drag a 3-year-old and a 13-year-old with her.  Where was my father?  I think he came and went on the weekends.  I believe he had started his optometry practice by then.

It was a long, sad summer and one I quickly put in the back of my mind - except for the horses.

More information about Laurence:Father:  Robert Hawley Austin
Mother:  Laura Mae Shepard

Thursday, November 28, 2019

Gone to the dogs

Scott texted me yesterday afternoon to let me know the National Dog Show was on television.  I laughed and thanked him and headed right for the television to watch and and record it.

Scott's text brought back memories of watching the Westminster Dog Show together - just us.  He liked it as much as I did.  I can't remember the last time we talked about it.  I didn't know he even remembered.  I thought it was a treasured memory that belonged to me only.   I'm delighted to know that Scott remembers - and I'm grateful that he is sweet enough to let me know that it was a good memory for him, too.

By the way, Thor, the bulldog won Best in Show this year.


Saturday, November 23, 2019

Maternal - Great Grandparents ~ Arthur and Elta Mechling

Elta Lee Frick was married to Arthur Shupe Mechling (pronounced Meckling) on September 20, 1900

Elta was born on May 9, 1873 and died on November 2, 1941
Arthur was born on February 1877 and died on February 28, 1958 (He was my hero)

Elta and Arthur had one child:  Josephine Mechling - my grandmother and my life inspiration

I never knew Elta. She died 7 years before I was born.  I'm fascinated to find out that she was 4 years older than Grand-daddy - not sure why, but I am.

I could write pages and pages about Grand-daddy Mechling and Grandma Jo (as I called them) -and probably will at some point, but this is the family tree version, so you are temporarily spared.

For as long as I remember,  Grandma Jo lived with Grand-daddy Mechling in Ronco, a little town in western Pennsylvania where Grand-daddy managed a Union Supply store for about 50 years (I think).  He was one of the founders of the Presbyterian Church in Ronco, some kind of big deal with the Masons - very active in the community.

I remember him as a quiet man - always available to me - always happy to see me.  He had very large, strong hands and I loved holding hands with him.  He taught me about acceptance and love.  He was steady at what should have been a very unsteady time in my life when my parents had decided to separate and my mother and I went back to Ronco to live with my grandmother and great-grandfather.  Ironically, it turned out to be the most stable and happy time of my life.  

Art (as most people called him) lived at the bottom of the hill, a field of wildflowers away from the Monongahela River (where my mother said she learned to swim).

He was bald on top, with a little bit of white hair on the sides and back - and when he wore a tie, it was a bow-tie.  He wore a starched white shirt every day (I can still feel his shirt against my cheek) and dress pants. We picked snapdragons from the garden for my grandmother and he would hold me and rock me in the white wicker rocking chair in the kitchen, by the window, beside the radiator.  He was my everything and I was happy.


Arthur is buried in Sylvan Heights Cemetery in Uniontown, Fayette County, Pennsylvania


Here is some additional information I found for Arthur Shupe Mechling (Grand-daddy). I had no idea he had so many siblings!!!



Father: William Mechling (1832-1894)
Mother: Mary Carey (1838-1909)

Siblings:
Benjamin Franklin Mechling (1859-1911)
Mattie Barbara Mechling  (1862-1864)
Amos Carrie Mechling  (1864-1902)
Harry W. Mechling (1866-1890)
John Reynolds Mechling (1869-1869)  Twin - died at 16 days old
Lewis Carey Mechling (1869-1954) Twin - died at age 84
Cora Ellen Mechling (1871-1872)
Edward Orren Mechling (1875-1939

Sunday, November 10, 2019

Paternal Great-Grandparents ~ Omer and Maude Vance

 Maude C. Brown married to Omer Vance

Maude was born on September 20, 1875 and died in 1959 (don't know the date)
Omer was born in 1874 and died in 1951 (don't know the dates)

Maude and Omer had four children:
*  James Vance - my great uncle - a funeral director - lived next door to my grandmother and two houses up the hill from Nanny.  His house was part of the building that was the funeral home.  Uncle Vance was married to Aunt Aileen.  They had two daughters: Virginia (the oldest) and Marjorie.  Uncle Jim had horses and was responsible for my obsession with horses.  He taught he to ride.
*  Mary Vance - my grandmother (more to come)
*  Pearl Vance - my great aunt
*  Infant Vance - a baby that did not survive

I don't remember Omer.  I was 3 when he died, but I do remember Maude.  I was 11 when Maude died.

I called her Nanny Vance and I remember her well.  I was her first great-grandchild and I was born on her birthday which made me extra-special to her.  She was pretty special to me, too.

She lived three houses down the hill from my grandmother's (my father's mother) house and I loved visiting any time we went to Smithfield to visit Grandma Austin.  We also lived in Smithfield for a while and I was able to visit often.  

Maude's daughter, Pearl, lived with her mother and never married.  The pretty cocktail ring that I wear on my right hand belonged to Aunt Pearl.  Somehow, after Pearl died, my father ended up with the ring and he gave to me years ago.  I'm grateful to have it. 


I remember picking sour cherries from the cherry trees in her back yard so that she could make cherry pie and cherry preserves.  In the fall I picked apples for applesauce and apple pies.  Aunt Pearl would come outside to check on me, and I would dump the cherries - or apples I had picked into her apron.  I don't know that I ever remember seeing Aunt Pearl without an apron.

Nanny's house was a happy place for me.

Nanny had a parakeet named Dickie that could recite nursery rhymes.  Really.  Sometimes he'd get his nursery rhymes mixed up and I'd laugh till I cried.

Jack and Jill
went up the hill
fell off the wall
fell off the wall
all the king's horses
couldn't put him together again

... kind of like that (although not that, specifically)

Maude, Omer, and Pearl are buried in the Mt. Moriah cemetery in Smithfield, PA.  I was able to find pictures of their graves, which I've included here.  

I'm grateful that I was able to know and love my great-grandmother.





Tuesday, September 24, 2019

What's my name?

According to Chase, it's Gramcracker.  Chase came up with that name for me when he was 5 years old (he's 7 now) and I love it!  He's so creative! 

I wrote on Sunday that I had a real, official birthday party.  One of the best parts, was the cards from the kids. They each wrote a note in their card, which I will treasure.

Chase addressed his card to "Gramcracker"  and I loved it.  I love that Chase has a special name for me.  But then... I love Chase. 

Sunday, September 22, 2019

Happy birthday to... me

My 71st birthday was the 20th of September.  There have been times that I thought I wouldn't make it to see 71, but here I am.

Both of my sons and their families brought dinner and came to celebrate tonight.  It was a day that I'll cherish.  I am profoundly grateful. 

I'm happiest when they're around.  As Jerry Maguire said (kind of)... "They complete me."

I know they're busy.  I know it was hard for them to come, but they came.

I missed Greg's family, but I have to realize that their continued absence is their choice.

Happy birthday to me! 

Friday, September 6, 2019

First day thoughts from Mason

Mason told us when he graduated from pre-school in 2015 (https://inthepuddles.blogspot.com/2017/06/graduation-goals-and-aspirations.html) that he wants to be a farmer.

I am thrilled to know that Mason still wants to be a farmer.  Crystal said that according to his "All about me" on his first day of 2nd grade, his dream of being a farmer is still alive.  I'm not sure if Mason's choice of animals is still the same, but a farmer is what he wants to be.  I believe that Mason can be and do anything he chooses.